The Concept of Maco / "You Maco"

Maco: Nosy, Inquisitive. Showing excessive curiosity about the affairs of others.

There is a common concept here in some parts of the Caribbean regarding the concept of “maco” and what that means and how we as Muslims need to understand such terms in light of the Qur’an and Sunnah and general character and etiquette of a Muslim.

The common understanding is that a real man has to show that he doesn’t really care about his woman which is a psychological technique to help him cope with losing her if that were to occur. Because it is a “free market” so to speak, the possibility of the woman, (and the man for that matter) mutineering or jumping ship is very great, so pretending not to care is the solution for avoiding heartbreak.

Another twisted understanding is that if a man shows jealousy or concern for his wife, that this is somehow being “nosy” about her “privacy”.

Islam, however, gives us a more wholesome stress-free alternative which is living by the guidelines of what the Creator has legislated for us, and by so doing, the stress and concern of emotional warfare is greatly limited.

O you who believe! Ward off from yourselves and your families a Fire (Hell) whose fuel is men and stones, over which are (appointed) angels stern (and) severe, who disobey not, (from executing) the Commands they receive from Allah, but do that which they are commanded.
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Holy Quran
Surah At-Tahrim (66:6)

This shows that it is mandatory on the Muslim man to strive to safeguard himself and his family from falling into the plots of shaytaan and that this is a duty placed on him by his Creator. In another verse, Allah says:

Men are in charge of women by [right of] what Allah has given one over the other and what they spend [for maintenance] from their wealth. So righteous women are devoutly obedient, guarding in [the husband's] absence what Allah would have them guard.
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Holy Quran
Surah An-Nisa (4:34)

This verse clearly establishes the position of the man as a leader and guardian of the safety and welfare of his family. How distant is the “maco” concept from the guidance of the Most High. In an authentic hadeeth on the authority of Abdullah ibn Umar, the Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said:

Every one of you is a shepherd and is responsible for his flock. The leader of people is a guardian and is responsible for his subjects. A man is the guardian of his family and he is responsible for them. A woman is the guardian of her husband’s home and his children and she is responsible for them. The servant of a man is a guardian of the property of his master and he is responsible for it. No doubt, every one of you is a shepherd and is responsible for his flock.
Sahih Hadith
Abdullah ibn Umar
Sahih Bukhari and Muslim (6719) - (1829)

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